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Bryan’s and Karen’s Wedding

December 29, 2008 Leave a comment Go to comments
I rolled into the [company] project on September 1, 2004.  One of the first people I met on the team was Bryan, who was relatively new with the DBA team.  It was just recently his birthday and one of his wishes was to have someone to love in his life.  On September 27 three new hires joined the project, and one of them was Karen.  I don’t know if it was love at first sight.  In any case they were getting a long very well.  Pretty soon they were officially a couple – December 23, 2004, if I recall right.  They made a wonderful couple.  On April 26, 2007 Karen left the company.  Four days later Bryan followed suit.  They remained together in the new life they started in Singapore. 
Their Wedding
Fast-forward our story to December 27.  A few months prior to this they announced their engagement and wedding to all their family and friends.  Karen asked me if I could be the Commentator during the ceremonies, and it was with great honor that I accepted this task. 
So, here I was along EDSA driving to the National Shrine of the Sacred Heart in Makati City.  I left the house before 9:00 a.m. so that I could be there before 10:00 a.m.  The ceremonies were not scheduled to begin until 10:30 a.m. but their wedding coordinator wanted everyone who was playing a key role to be there early.  I was nervous on my way to the church, but I couldn’t exactly explain why so.  As I was approaching the intersection of the Ayala Avenue extension and Metropolitan Avenue I found my answer: I wasn’t sure of how to go to the Church anymore.  Nervousness escalated into sheer panic. 
I just love flashbacks, eh? Open-mouthed  Last November 23, I actually did a practice run for supposedly all of the Churches that I would be going to for the weddings I’m invited.  I started off by finding my way to the Santuario De San Antonio Parish in Forbes Park for the December 7 wedding of Chris and Maika, the latter being my officemate.  That was the easy part.  My next step would be to find my way to the National Shrine of the Sacred Heart for the wedding of Bryan and Karen.  I somehow managed to find it thanks to some makeshift signs that pointed me to it.  But getting out of the place, I was in a panic because I got lost.  Somehow I managed to get way off course and I ended up somewhere along Yakal street.  I called up Tita Angie and Tito Rey who lived nearby for assistance; Tito Rey was going to come to me but I told him that I would try to ask around first.  Eventually I found directions from a gas station attendant who told me that I was along Malugay street, and all I had to do was go straight to go back to Ayala.  That I did, and that was the end of my troubles, for now anyway.  I went to Greenbelt and bought a map of Makati, out of sheer exasperation at my own road incompetence.  I was also supposed to practice run going to the December 28 wedding of Ryan and Sheryl in the Cathedral-Basilica of the Immaculate Conception in Intramuros, Manila, but I no longer continued.  On a side-note, I was able to attend the December 7 wedding, but not the December 28 wedding due to conflicting and changing schedules.  I would have loved to see Sheryl wed, who was one of my best staff when I was with the [company] project. 
Going back…  You’d think by now I would know better, but despite prior experience and a map of Makati, I still managed to get lost.  I overshot the intersection of Ayala Avenue and Metropolitan Avenue and illegally backtracked my way to it.  The sign that led me before the Church was no longer there.  Then I got lost again and overshot Sacred Heart street.  I couldn’t reach Tito Rey now; fortunately I came across a gas station that was very near Kamagong street.  The attendant gave me directions and I eventually found my way again. 
God bless all the gas station attendants who’ve saved my life! 
Okay – so I finally got there.  That was a huge relief.  However my peace and calm did not last long.  I started to feel nervous again, and in a frantic search for the reason for my panic, I realized that I felt unsure about my performance later on as the Commentator.  Even if Karen gave me a copy of the program several weeks back and I actually practiced it, since this was my first time to do such a task it was still left me unhinged. 
Funny because the only role I was playing that day was that of the Commentator – and yet I was so nervous.  If ever I get married someday…  I can just imagine how “animated” I would be. 
It was also like a reunion of the old [company] project because most of those that have left the company and those that remained were there.  Pio was back from Singapore and served as Bryan’s Best Man.  Julieth was one of the three new hires aside from Karen who joined [company] (the other was Laura, who couldn’t make it due to conflicting appointments); she continues to be Karen’s best friend and kumare and thus served as her Maid of Honor.  Other people from Singapore flew in also for this event.  Anson, Tin, Rache, Joesil and Julius were also there. 
A few other people did not attend the event – only because they were also getting married that same day.  They were Rico and Luizelle.  Half the people who were attending Bryan’s and Karen’s wedding had to leave early to attend to Rico’s and Luizelle’s wedding in the afternoon. 
The wedding eventually started, but it started late at 10:45 a.m. because some time was spent cleaning up the Church after the wedding that just preceded the one I was attending.  I did my best not to screw this up – this was the most special day for two of my best friends, and the last thing I wanted was to spoil it for them. 
I was told that my part went well, for the most part anyway. Out of nervousness I announced that the marriage rites would now proceed after the Gospel was read – the priest corrected me that he would give the Homily first.  Whoops.  The Homily was very good.  The priest admonished them to always love and forgive one another so that their marriage will last.  Good thing he reminded me about that part of the Mass. Open-mouthed  At one point in the ceremonies after Communion I tripped over my kneeler and that caused some loud commotion.  Otherwise, I think I delivered as best as I could. 
I’ve often wondered why priests needed a guide for saying the Mass (it escapes me now what it’s actually called; it’s not the Misalette that the laymen use) given that they’ve been celebrating it day in and day out, but from my experience I now I understand why something like that would be very important.  It really does help getting you on track on how to do things.  It is especially useful if you’re a bit nervous.  I certainly was, and even if I had the Misalette I still managed to mess up a bit, but not too much. Smile
It was a touching ceremony.  Karen was looking like the beautiful bride she was meant to be.  They both looked so young and so in love.  Good for them!  Their dream of finally being together for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death does them apart, has finally been fulfilled.  I am very happy for my friends. 
Right after the Mass the usual picture taking took place.  Fortunately for me the wedding coordinator was willing to relieve me of my misery; she took over ushering in who gets to pose in front of the camera with the couple in the Church.  People started leaving for the reception shortly afterwards. 
This might be the first and last time I will ever agree to be a Commentator for someone’s wedding again.  Should I serve in this role again in the future…  It better be good. 
The Reception
One thing I did not do during my November 23 practice run was to find out how to go to the respective hotels – and where to park.  For Chris’ and Maika’s wedding it was held in the Mandarin Oriental; I just followed one of my managers who was also invited on the way to go there, and where to park.  There was no longer any parking and so we just used the valet.  For Bryan’s and Karen’s wedding it was at the Dusit Thai hotel.  That hotel has changed names so often it seems people know it by three designations.  Now, instead of going to the trouble of parking in Park Square 1, which was just across the hotel, I decided to play safe and park in familiar territory, never mind if it was a bit far.  I found a nice slot in 6750, and from there walked my way to the hotel. 
When we got to the Reception Hall there were a number of people already present.  This was where we met up with Oliver.  Just like Anson, he had to leave early to attend to Rico’s and Luizelle’s wedding that afternoon.  Pio and Tin were no longer around.  Anson left before lunch began, but Oliver stayed until the end of the program.
Lunch started around 1:45 p.m.  It was a buffet lunch, so people lined up after getting their picture taken with the couple.  The usual wedding reception practices and traditions were carried out.  An interesting twist was the couple’s first dance.  I don’t think anyone was expecting that Bryan and Karen would boogie on the dance floor! Smile
The Garter Game
Like all wedding reception practices and traditions, they also had this game.  I guess to cut the story short, Karen wanted me to be paired up with [Angry] so badly that she made sure that I would be the guy putting the garter on [Angry]’s leg.  [01/02/2009 EDIT: Karen says this is not true.  I’ll just blame this on the wedding coordinator in that case.  Hehehe.]
You know…  Call me conservative-minded, but I had to close my eyes doing this. Embarrassed  (Torpe I think is the more operative word.)
Bryan was then asked to kiss Karen in five places of her body except her lips – and I was required to follow.  It was the first time I can remember kissing a lady who is not my relative.  Fortunately for everybody it was still "wholesome" — okay, make that rated PG, but still PG and not R or X.  I’ll admit that the experience was interesting… In retrospect, let me just say that it was very obvious to me that she tried to be a sport in all this, just like me, but she didn’t like the idea of it one bit. 
It’s the garter game.  It has always been… Well, there has always been some kiliti in this activity.
The garter game was the last activity.  After that the program winded down.  I believe it ended around 3:30 p.m., and I left after saying goodbye to Bryan and Karen and wishing them well in their new life together.
On Married Life
One of the important lessons of a marriage that I was reminded of yesterday was the fact that the newly wed couple is now a family.  The guy or gal won’t separately go home to their parents after this since they are now one indissoluble body under God. 
This is a huge responsibility.  It’s one thing to be responsible for your own life, but to be responsible also for the welfare of another person is something different altogether and we’re not yet talking about the responsibility that comes with welcoming and nurturing new life that God may give in a marriage. 
I remember when I was a child I would look up to my parents and trust them without question that they would take care of me.  I knew they would be able to manage it, and they have.  I still look up to them in the same way.  Bryan and Karen are now responsible for each other.  I pray that God will continue to be present in their lives, for it is only through Him that they will have the trust and confidence in each other in loving and living out the responsibility they have for one another. 
I pray that Bryan and Karen succeed in their new chapter in their life.  They love each other truly, so I know they will. Smile
More power to you, my friends!  The best is yet to come. 
May all those who are married or in a relationship remain centered and anchored to You, our God, and may they cherish this special gift that You have given to them. 
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