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This Valley of Tears

There is so much pain in the world today. 
So much so that even the great and happy things in life don’t last or even lose its luster over time.  Then again, anything in this world is really not meant to last forever. 
Friendships start and then someday, for whatever reason, just end.  In a way those can still be considered the “lucky ones.”  Some don’t even start at all.  Others, sometimes, one even wishes never started, if only to avoid all the pain that it would cause years later.  Still, some just fizzle out because they really never meant anything. 
Love grows in your heart, but is rejected by the other party.  It’s such a shame, really, how sad that people’s hearts don’t always synchronize all the time.  You think to yourself that things could have been really great, if only the other party gave it a chance.  But the other party never even tried. 
You make plans for a bright future.  However something happens that shocks and awakens you from your beautiful dream and you scream in terror and with a cold sweat on your back, in such excruciating pain. 
She leaves you.  She never really loved you anyway, but you simply refused to believe it and continued to hope against hope for the spark that never ignited from her end many years ago. 
One loses one’s innocence.  At the moment this happens both of you don’t have a care in the world, and relish in the euphoria of it all.  You each enjoy the intimacy you share and wish the embrace would last forever.  It is something you think is worth sacrificing eternity in Heaven, but the romantic bubble bursts so horribly.  You come to your senses later and see that it wasn’t such a good idea after all, from an emotional and spiritual perspective.  “How could I just give it away like that?” you think to yourself.  It’s too late. 
And yes, you find out that it really is too late.  In fact, it never arrived.  You get her pregnant.  Or from the other end, you find yourself pregnant.  Either way one realizes how unprepared one is for the new responsibilities of the role.  Sometimes one needs to take this path alone, because he either left you or is just as unprepared as you are, and you end up crying for weeks on end.  His charisma doesn’t mean a thing to you anymore if he doesn’t want to step up and care for you and the future growing inside you.  She isn’t as hot as you once thought she was, now that a lifetime of responsibility is associated with her. 
It could also be that you both decide to face the challenges of the world together, but find yourselves having second thoughts about each one’s ability to actually live with such struggles for the rest of your lives.  Her family doesn’t like you, and you feel the same way, and you wonder if you can spend the rest of your life at odds with the other tribe.  You know what they say sometimes, that marriage is an eye-opener.  How true you see it is!  And you wonder why this insight comes too late in the game. 
Some things can actually start great… but also finish, and not in the way you wanted. 
Both of you are in love and start a family together.  How could you know that a few years down the road your marriage would be dissolved because the other party already had a life before you met each other, and that you were just a passing fancy that the other party happened to marry along the way?  You now wonder how this will impact your child, and what you will tell him when he grows up with half the family absent. 
At last, you finally marry your sweetheart of many years.  But something came up and you need to part – again.  You hear of the sadness that comes from long distance relationships, and lament that you find yourself in one.  How can you go on without your beloved?  Aren’t we supposed to face life together, as a team?  You become angry at the cruel twist of fate that forces your separation.  You live, but you are not alive. 
The career path you chose was not what you hoped it would be, and you begin to question the choices you made in life that lead you to where you are now. 
You are ambitious.  You want more money, more power, more fame, and you do whatever it takes to get it.  You do get it, but then think about the sacrifices you had to make and start to question if this was a good decision.  How many people did you leave behind or step on to achieve your goals?  You realize that you are now enjoying your own pyrrhic victory of sorts. 
Tragedies happen. 
You know someone at the prime of his life – then, without warning, he just dies.  “He made so many plans on what he wanted to do in his 30’s and 40’s, after graduate school, after getting this and that…”  And so on and so forth.  That doesn’t matter now that his life has been cut short so soon, and you wonder why things like that happen everyday.  And you can’t help but think these thoughts every time you visit your friend’s grave. 
You get into an accident and can’t walk anymore.  Or you can’t see anymore.  Or you can’t do the things you could do with ease anymore.  Or you kill someone – literally but unintentionally.  Or you find out you are sick.  You never thought you’d find yourself in the hospital, but there you are now.  And sometimes, it turns out you’re too sick to ever get well again.  You realize that this is your new reality – you will have to live the rest of your life with this impediment or baggage ever present in your mind, however long or short your life may be. 
People leave.  And sometimes, people leave because they die.  Grandparents, parents, siblings and relatives die.  Today when you saw your grandfather pass through the door of your home, could be the last time you’ll ever see him alive.  “Lola is dying,” she tells you at her hospital bed, but you don’t believe her.  And you still don’t believe your grandmother when it actually happens one week later.  Your favorite aunt lives one day long enough to see you married, and then the next thing you know, she’s gone.  She never even met the beautiful child you’re holding now. 
Things change.  Or you change.  Sometimes it’s your fault, sometimes it isn’t and sometimes it’s no one’s fault at all.  And you know things like these happen everyday.  You see these things happen to many people everyday.  You just didn’t realize it could happen to you or someone you know. 
They say you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.  Sometimes the case is more like you know and appreciate what you have, you just didn’t realize that you would ever lose it.  You are in denial that it will ever slip away from you, but it will, and when it happens your world just ends. 
Life is so unfair. 
Anything in this world is not meant to last forever.  And it’s depressing.  It applies to all good things.  Fortunately it also applies to all bad things. 
… The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth. The LORD has spoken.  (Isaiah 25:8)
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”  (Revelation 21:3-4)
I think for as long as we still have God in our lives, no matter how horrible this world becomes for us, in faith, we know that things will be alright in the end, because of Him. 
All this pain leads up to one conclusion: Dear God…  Please take care of us all.  We need You.  Right here, right now.  Real badly.  Only You can do it.  Only You will do. 
We are all a broken people, O Lord.  Your children need Your Mercy, Love and Peace. 
And speaking for myself, I know I need You. 
Jesus, King of Mercy, we trust in You!  We need You! 
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