Archive for March, 2011

In A Relationship Leading To Marriage

March 21, 2011 1 comment

Being in a relationship is not an end of itself. If you really want to show you’re serious in loving another person, then you need to show it by making a lifetime commitment to that person in marriage. If you cannot make that commitment then you’re just wasting your time and the other person’s time.

If you really love someone, then commit to love that someone for as long you both shall live. Anything that is less than that is a lie.

Jesus, I trust in You!

Related: Love and Intimacy.


Love and Intimacy

March 21, 2011 Leave a comment

Physical intimacy really is a beautiful gift of God.

I feel it even goes beyond mere pleasure; the experience transcends the physical act into something that I can only describe as a spiritual communion between two people, for lack of a better way of describing it.

Such intimate communion between two souls can only be perfect and beautiful if it is done out of love – a love that is proven and committed before God and man. Anything less than that, like when it is done just for fun or without any real, true commitment, is just way too impersonal – and if you think about it some more, it would really feel imperfect! If you do something as beautiful as that, then you’d want it to be perfect!

You don’t do it purely just for fun and pleasure, and you don’t do it with just anyone and with just about everyone. You do it with the woman you really love, and you love her so much so that before everything else, you marry her before God and man and commit yourself to her welfare for the rest of your life. It is only because of God and the grace of a solid foundation of true and committed love that only He can provide can such physical intimacy ever become perfect.

To please God should always be our highest priority. After that, I think the second most important priority of one’s married life is to please one’s wife.

I just have to rant this out of my mind: It utterly escapes me why any man would be too tired or too preoccupied with anything else other than pleasing his wife when she wants and needs it from him. What the hell is wrong with these men??? I know that oftentimes the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak, but – Damn it! – this is so NOT one of those times!

So what if you find out you married someone who turns out to be addicted to it? At least she’s addicted to you! So what if both of you pass out, out of dire exhaustion, from attempting to do it non-stop today as if the world will end tomorrow? At least you gave everything to each other, and held absolutely nothing back! And so what if what seems like a never-ending cycle of intimacy, results in 10 babies over the course of five years? They are yours and her children, and they were born out of love. My point: It’s just frustrating to see why any man would hold back from his wife, if he truly loves her.

I just hope that those who God has joined together actually cherish the life-giving (figuratively and literally) gift that He has given them the privilege of enjoying. As hard as it may seem to comprehend, I think that using this gift is actually a married couple’s way of giving Him glory, because in a way, this intimate act is a celebration of life and love.

And for those of us who are not yet married, I pray that we use His grace to be patient, to wait for the right person and the right time, to use this gift the way He wants us to use it, not how the world thinks we ought to be able to use it. We want the experience to be perfect – and God’s plan for how this gift should be used will make it perfect.

And for those of us who will never marry for whatever reason… Let me just say that this experience is not the ultimate peak of our human existence. Our lives are meant for God, and the ultimate goal we seek, consciously or not, is to be united with Him forever. God is greater than love and intimacy; He is our ultimate end and our sole satisfier.

Jesus, I trust in You!

Related: In A Relationship Leading to Marriage.