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Tactics in Life: Counter-Measures to Arrogance

February 23, 2014 Leave a comment Go to comments

I’ve been wondering about how to properly deal with people who are arrogant in particular and hard to please in general.  It then occurred to me to think back in my own life experiences of being that arrogant bastard that people had to deal with on one occasion or another, back in those “good old days,” of course.  I think I finally found the solution to deal with arrogant people by how other people dealt with my own arrogance (justified or not, it’s ultimately irrelevant) over the years.

The world does not owe anyone anything; even God does not owe us anything.  And yet there are many people who feel entitled to whatever the hell it is that they think they deserve to get.  They become jerks just to get what they want, forcing their agenda as they see fit, even if success doesn’t have to come at such a cost.  No matter how much you try to appease them, sometimes these people are never satiated, because they want more – and they seem to always demand more.

Nothing you say or do will ever please or satisfy another party who has made up his mind about you and simply doesn’t care anymore.  For what it’s worth, you can also play the same game he’s playing: You might as well not care if he’s pissed-off, too.

Have fun at the person’s expense.  If he’s irritated at you then give him more reasons to be irritated, and watch him rant and break down.  Make the person angrier, sit back and have fun in watching him stew in his own juices as he self-destructs.

There’s at least one major caveat in this approach: Self-destructive people tend to bring down others with them, in one way or another.  After all, sin is social in nature, no matter how private we might think it is sometimes; sin ultimately doesn’t just affect us but others also.  You can only hope that the arrogant fool generates enough visibility to the point that people who can do something about it will actually do something about it.  At the very least, he damages his reputation to a lot of people and burns enough bridges that eventually isolate him in the long run – and that will be the end of him.

More or less this is how God punishes sin also: He lets the consequences of our sin run its course.  God punishes those He loves, and He does that because He wants to correct and remove the evil we commit for our own good and the good of others.  The justice He dispenses is through allowing the destructive effects of our sin to run its course and thus giving us what’s our due for the sins committed.  Good parents do this for their children because they want them to be good people; this is all the more true with our Lord Who is our Divine Parent.  Attempts in helping the arrogant along faster by “encouraging” his arrogance only serve to hasten the consequences of his actions – though I’m sure this is NOT what our Lord had in mind.

That being said, the Christian thing to do is to point out the problem to the person, out of loving charity to let him know that what he’s doing is not good for him and for others.  Whether he actually accepts your correction is his choice to make.

There’s always a reason, perhaps some hidden pain that scars the depth of his heart, for someone to act the way he does.  Seek to understand what that pain is, and actually help to do something about it if you can, and not just judge.

Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5: 43 – 48).  Respond to arrogance with kindness and love.  It’s irrelevant if he has a change of heart if you treat him nicely; ultimately what’s more important is you love the person causing you grief just as God loves you despite your own weaknesses and imperfections.  In other words, be perfect as God is perfect.

For what it’s worth, you become a better man out of the experience in dealing with someone at his worst.  This is what you win when you deal with arrogant people in God’s way.

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