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Nothing Lasts Forever: All Happiness is Bittersweet

June 29, 2014 Leave a comment

All happiness in this world is bittersweet because someday it will all come to an end.

Nothing in this world lasts forever, most in particular are the people we hold dear.

Sometimes, you won’t have the time to say your goodbyes, as they will leave so suddenly or after just a very short time.  Other times you will still have that one last chance to be with them.  Either way, when it’s their time to go, they will, and no matter how much you prepare for when that day comes, you can never be truly ready for it.

When you think about it, it seems pointless to get who you want in life.  No matter how much time you spend to be with that person, through no fault of their own, someday that person will leave you, because we all go through this life.  That being said, you don’t give up on them that easily.  The time spent with them will still be worthwhile.  Enjoy who you have now, but be ready to let go someday, out of love.

And on an extended note, given how temporary this world is, there’s still value in doing good and for working for justice in society so that we will all be happy.  We don’t have to wait for the next life to experience the love our hearts long and yearn for; even while still in this world we can already get a taste of eternal happiness through such work.

In the end, the only Person who will never leave you and who will forever be constant is God.

Every day and every moment that we have is precious.  It’s irrelevant if the end comes suddenly or you have a few months to prepare.  All time is precious, and more so if you know you have so little left.  Don’t act like you still have tomorrow.  The only thing you are more or less sure of (and then some) is today, so make the most of today, for this day could literally also be your last opportunity to love.

On a personal note, I’m so grateful to God for all those days that have gone by, for it meant these were the days when I still had that “one more day,” a gift to be lived and seized one day at a time.

The end is going to happen someday, eventually.  The time will come when I will no longer have that “one more day” left for the people I love, and someday that day will also come for me.  I can only pray that it’s not going to be today.  And while that day isn’t here yet, at least as far as I can ever tell, I pray to be able to make the most of the time I have, right here and right now, with the people I love.

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy

Relationships Are Important

June 29, 2014 2 comments

Relationships are important.  Don’t be arrogant to think that you can go through life alone and be successful.

A lone wolf is a dead wolf.  Granted that you may not be a “people person” (i.e. you hate everybody), the reality is that sooner or later you will need others in one way or another.  You needed others in the past; you need people now, and you will still need people in the future.  Don’t go through life being confrontational, aggressive and abrasive with others because that will only alienate you from the relationships you need to develop and nourish in order to survive and thrive in this world.

Life is stressful enough as it is.  Being toxic to others is the last thing you want to be because in doing so you will get nowhere without the support of the relationships that will get you somewhere.

I’m not saying you please everybody, for that is impossible.  I’m not saying you give up your sense of self to fit in with the crowd, for that wouldn’t be fair to yourself and the values you hold.  I’m not saying you be good to people just so that you can use them and get something out of them, for that wouldn’t be right.  I’m not saying you still try to be in a relationship even if it’s no longer good for you.  I’m saying give everybody the basic respect and courtesy they deserve, be a good person and treat everybody properly – these are the things you also want and deserve, after all.

Last but definitely not the least, take care of the relationship you have with God, for He is the reason why anything is happening in your life – and the very reason why you’re here in the first place.

The relationships you have with God and your neighbor are the reason for your success and happiness in life.

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy

God Qualifies Who He Calls

June 29, 2014 1 comment

June 29 is celebrated as the Solemnity of Saints Peter and Paul.  They are two pillars of the Catholic Church; Peter was the first Pope, and in this capacity led the Church in its earliest days, while Paul is the Apostle to the Gentiles, bringing the Good News to those who were not Jews.

The Gentiles have the Faith because of St. Paul.  One thing worth noting is that his conversion to Christianity is testament to the truth of Jesus Christ that He resurrected from the dead and has gained for us salvation and eternal life.  One of the best proofs of the truth is the testament of a “hostile witness.”  Paul, being one of the earliest persecutors of the followers of Christ, could not have been a better hostile witness at that.  The fact that he completely reversed his stand on Christianity and literally died for Jesus in the end points to the reality that something did happen to him in his life’s journey for him to make a radical change.  What happened is that he met Jesus, and his life, and that of the Gentiles, has never been the same since then.

St. Peter was not perfect.  In my opinion it’s because he wasn’t perfect that he was a very good if not the best representative of humanity, for none of us are, either.  In thinking that Jesus was a political and military leader, he didn’t want Him to die on the cross.  He denied Jesus three times to save himself.  And yet in the end he showed his great love for Jesus when he thrice answered Him that he loved Him, and he demonstrated that by spending the rest of his life proclaiming the truth of Jesus Christ and the Good News of our salvation, dying for Jesus in the end.

There is a practical lesson to be learned in the lives of these two great Saints.

Don’t be discouraged by your sinfulness for this isn’t a hindrance to doing God’s will.  As in the case of these two Saints and others like them over the ages, God uses even the greatest of sinners to accomplish His will which is for our good.  In fact it’s through one’s repentance and conversion that such an act serves as a witness and helps spread the truth of the Gospel.

We don’t need to wait to be perfect to do God’s will.  It’s enough that we remain open to His grace to work in our lives and be willing to participate in carrying out His will in whatever capacity He wants us to do so.  We don’t need to be perfect to do good deeds out of love for Him and our neighbor.

God does not call the qualified; He qualifies those who He calls.  Every day God is calling us to lead lives of holiness, for such is the path to true happiness, here in this world now and in preparation for the next.  I pray that we will answer His call, trusting that He will give us all the graces we need in carrying out His will in wherever He needs us to be in this world and in our particular state in life.


Categories: Religion

Words Are Powerful

June 22, 2014 4 comments

Words are neither to be underestimated nor dismissed as “just mere talk” that doesn’t compare with action, because the latter means “doing something.”  On the contrary, words do translate into action; they are doing something.  Words are powerful because they make things happen, and this is especially true when the words are spoken by someone with authority.

She is your wife now because she said “Yes” to be your girlfriend first, and she said “Yes” again to be your wife next.

“You’re hired!” started your career; “You’re fired!” ended it.

“I absolve you from your sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit” frees you from the slavery of sin; “Get out of the Confessional!” keeps you damned.

“I LOVE YOU!” or “I trust you!” nurtures and deepens relationships; “F_CK YOU!” or simply “Go to Hell!” damages it if not completely ends it.

People use your name to address you because you’re part of their lives; you’re labeled as “he-who-must-not-be-named” or are not even mentioned because people refuse to acknowledge that you even exist.

At the very least, if the words that come out of you don’t make things happen immediately for you, then it can help influence the people who receive it, for better or worse.  And they in turn, as a result of your influence, might be able to take your words and transform it into something actionable.

Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come.  Words chosen wisely and shared in the right place and the right time will reach far and wide.  Words have the power to start a revolution whose effects, good or bad, will be felt for generations to come.  If you need an example in history, then look no further than Rizal’s Noli Me Tangere.

Speak the truth that needs to be said, even if it’s difficult to do so.  Sometimes the change that we want to see in this world won’t happen unless we call out people’s attention to its absence and need.  Sometimes the change you want to see in your own life won’t happen until you are humble and honest enough to articulate it to yourself.

Be careful with the words you say.  Words spoken or written are a reflection of what’s in the heart.  So speak words of truth and love, for words have the power to make or break lives.  Besides, the life that could be made or broken could be yours.

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy

Irony of Doing Good: Being Taken For Granted

June 22, 2014 1 comment

It’s ironic that a measure of being successful in doing what is good is when people take your contributions, and even your existence, for granted because everything is moving along smoothly and there are no serious issues or drama to deal with, all thanks to your efforts to make it so.  Therefore you are not “successful” when people notice you – because they’re looking for someone to assign the blame for the mess and the dirty work for fixing the problem.

This doesn’t mean you stop doing the good that you do.  You do the good that needs to be done out of love for God, or at the very least simply because it’s the right thing to do anyway.  Doing what is good for goodness’ sake is a reward in itself; any appreciation you get from people is a nice bonus, but just a bonus.

Besides, you can’t expect everyone to notice the good you do.  The people who notice are the ones who ultimately matter in your life.

Continue to do good even if your efforts in doing so are taken for granted because in the end doing what is good is what will matter in life.

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy