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The Genuine Makes the Connection

To be an authentic leader, bring your personality to work.

One cannot hide who one really is.  If you want the people you work with to trust you and cooperate in your plans, then they need to know and understand the real you.  At the very least, being yourself is also a form of courtesy: You’re being real to everybody around you.  It’s hard to trust anyone we don’t know, or who is pretending to be something he’s not.

People learn to trust their leaders if they know them well.  You don’t necessarily have to make your life an open book to everybody.  It’s just a matter of giving them some space in your life, just as they will also give some space in their lives to you.

Teachable Points of View

I think I finally figured out a key factor to my success at work: I’m able to connect to people.  For many years, I’ve seriously wondered what I have been doing to get myself this far so far.  I felt it was important for me to know and understand what this was so that I could harness and maximize such further.  Without a doubt, I wouldn’t be successful if it weren’t for the people under me.  And I feel a factor worth noting is that if I weren’t able to connect to my team the way I do, they wouldn’t be motivated to do their best – or at the very least, I would like to think that I didn’t make their lives any harder than it could have been.

It’s said that people don’t leave companies; they leave bad bosses.  (That could be up for debate, of course, if the company has some insanity institutionalized and what-not.)  But I think the opposite is also true: People stay and do the best that they can do in their work if they’re working for a good boss, too.

If you prick us, do we not bleed? If you tickle us, do we not laugh? If you poison us, do we not die? And if you wrong us, shall we not revenge? – Shylock, The Merchant of Venice, Act 3, Scene 1

People can connect to you if they know that, despite your position in the industry or in society, you’re just like one of them.  They know that you can relate to their hopes and dreams and their troubles and anguishes in life because you also go through such joys and trials in your own life.  They can connect to you if you are reachable.

To be a genuine person means you’re being yourself.  The most difficult thing to do is to be someone you’re not.  Granted, sometimes there are tactical uses of crafting a certain image, especially if it’s necessary to sway public opinion of you in a favorable light.  However you cannot be a fake person forever; people will eventually see through your deception and distrust you.  People want to see the real you, not a false image you project to the world.

Never explain yourself to anyone.  Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it.

To be a genuine person means people know exactly who you are.  What they see is what they get.  If you say you are something, if you say you are doing something, people can take your word for it, for they know that you are being true and that’s really who you are.  It’s this authenticity in who you are that enables that connection to people.  It’s also this authenticity that establishes relationships: If people like you then they do so for who you are, accepting you for all that you are, for both your strengths and weaknesses.

It’s by being genuine – being yourself, being your honest character all the time – that makes the connection with people.  So, be real to people.  And establish the relationships that will get you far and, more importantly, bring you fullness in life.

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