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To Be Happy in Life, Be Kind and Loving

September 26, 2015 Leave a comment Go to comments

A secret to be happy in life is to be kind and loving to everybody.

Sometimes, just being there for the people you love, with one’s mere presence and time invested to be with them, would be enough.  Never underestimate the value of companionship; many people can feel so alone despite being part of a crowd.  Sometimes, just choosing to be kind and loving to them even if it isn’t easy or convenient is one of the best ways we prove how much we really love those we claim to love.  It’s easy to love them when they’re good to us; love is tested and becomes true when it’s the opposite.  I’m sure there are many more ways of being kind and loving to others, and in particular to the people that matter in our life.  Ultimately even the simplest of things, done with much love, are usually the sweetest that we could do to show just that.

It’s an ironic fact of life that we tend to hurt the ones we love the most.  Instead of loving them as we should, we tend to take them for granted and forget their important place in our lives.  Rather than loving them, we cause them so much pain.  And as painful as it is for them, it is also rightfully painful for us because we know we’ve failed them by giving them grief instead of joy.  No matter how much we genuinely love someone our love for them remains imperfect, because we ourselves are still imperfect, and it’s the imperfect nature of our love that’s truly regrettable.  Our only hope is to remain in communion with God, constantly reminding ourselves that He loves us, and allowing Him to love us just as we are.  It’s in the course of experiencing His love that we will be transformed to love Him and the people closest and dearest to us perfectly, in time.

It’s easier said than done, but we should also be kind and loving to those who we also don’t like because it’s the right thing to do.  Even if they continue to be a jerk, still be good and kind to them, since ultimately it’s between you and God anyway.  Besides, the goal is not to convert them to be good to you.  The goal is ultimately your conversion, your transformation to become more like Jesus.  If you manage to win over the person you don’t like also then that’s a welcome bonus.

Modern-day Pharisees want to implement the letter of the law.  Jesus continues to exhort us to live the spirit of the law, and that is to love and empathize with our neighbor.  That entails being inclusive.  Being inclusive means loving even the people who are not like us, the “others” that we label as such, those who sin differently than we do (or not) per our judgmental nature and other outcasts of society, or those who we don’t like or even hate.  We ought to love them as Jesus would love them, because this is how Jesus continues to love us for the many times when we’re not lovable.  We apply true Christianity if we love and empathize with others the way Jesus would.

In summary, being there for people, in the place, time, and manner that they need us, is how we can be kind and loving to them; this is how we attain happiness in this world.  When we do this, we love the way Jesus loved, which is to love unconditionally, without expecting anything in return.  This means we love them even if they will never love us back – and even that won’t matter.

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