Archive for January, 2016

Humility: Recognition and Responsibility

January 31, 2016 1 comment

You either humble yourself, or someone else will do that for you.

It’s not right to complain that you don’t feel valued when you don’t want to do the things of value. With recognition comes responsibility; the reason why you have one is because of the other, and vice-versa.  You either step up to take both of these, or you step down if you refuse to handle the work that comes from the honor bestowed.  In the end, it’s better to step aside and let someone else do what you cannot – or will not – want to do.  “The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it” (Chinese proverb).

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy

Letting Go of Someone You Love

January 23, 2016 Leave a comment

Letting go of someone you love is one of the most painful experiences one can ever encounter.

You might actually be the man she deserves because, objectively speaking, you are good for her.  But just because that’s the case, obviously it doesn’t necessary mean that you’re the man she wants.  She could still NOT feel the same way towards you for whatever reason, or no reason at all, in which case you’ll remain stuck in her Friend Zone.

Let her go because you love her and you just want her to be happy.  Let her slip away from you and into the arms of someone she truly wants instead.  It takes great courage and strength to bear the unbearable, seeing her happy with someone who isn’t you, giving him the privilege to love her the way she deserves to be loved instead of such coming from you.  But if this is the right thing to do then, as painful as it is, it needs to be done.

Being just friends, if that’s even a possibility, will never feel enough.  The scar of rejection will always be there.  But for what it’s worth, at least the act of letting her go for the sake of her happiness is proof that your love for her is true.  Hopefully, someday, this thought will give you some sense of comfort, for such is paradoxically both “nothing” and “everything” at the same time.

Showing that you truly love her is the point you ultimately make, and in the end that’s what really matters, for it shows you’re capable of loving that great. 

Someday, you might meet someone who will feel the same way towards you.  If and when that day comes, it’s always good to know that you’re capable of loving someone as deeply as you do, for you have proven you can do so from this love that was never returned.

Categories: Personal