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Nothing Lasts Forever: Refusing to Let Go

September 25, 2016 Leave a comment

It’s in our human nature to have an obstinate refusal to let go of the people we love.

It’s tragic when they’re snatched from us so suddenly; our world also ends when theirs end.

Even if you still have some time to prepare, no amount of preparation will ever make you ready when the time comes.  You can spend as much quality time as you can get, but when it happens five years or fifty years from now, it still won’t be enough.

And so how does one respond to this?  Do we love harder?  Do we squeeze tighter?  Or do we embrace the Buddhist creed of no attachment?  Do we pretend not to care then everything and everyone we know is going to be taken away from us and I, I don’t know if I can accept that.  I think I’m more side with the Dylan Thomas quote that says “I will not go quietly into that good night but instead rage against the dying over the light.”

I think that we defy entropy and impermanence with our films and our poems.  I think we hold on to each other a little harder and say “I will not let go!  I do not accept the ephemeral nature of this moment.  I’m going to extend it forever… Or at least I’m going to try.” – Existential Bummer by Jason Silva (via Shots of Awe YouTube channel)

We’re not meant to be here forever.  If you really love them then you’ll let them go when it’s time for them to rest.  And you’d move on with your life, because that’s what they’d want you to do.

But touch my tears with your lips,

Touch my world with your fingertips,

And we can have forever,

And we can love forever,

Forever is our today…

Queen

Trust in the Lord.  It’s easier said than done – trust in the Lord, anyway.  Take comfort in the thought that someday we will all be together with the people we love forever, and so much more because we will finally be with Him, too.

 

 

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy

Compromises and Changes in Relationships

September 4, 2016 Leave a comment

For a relationship to be successful, there will always be some compromise needed, and this will happen a lot of times in the relationship’s lifetime; such is part of the dynamic for making things work.

The risk with compromise is that you might lose your sense of identity over the course of one too many of it.  And since we’re talking about a compromise, what the relationship gets is the least common denominator of desires, in other words it’s not fully what each one really wants, and both parties can potentially end up not completely happy for this reason.

Choosing to make the relationship work should be the priority.  Unless you have that in mind, compromises will never be palatable.  It’s only when each party wants the relationship to work above any personal self-interest that they can attain satisfaction and joy from any compromise.  To think about and do what’s in the best interest of your partner, to always communicate and work out whatever life throws at both of you, is the way to make the relationship work.

Also, accept that the relationship will change you, sometimes in ways that you never imagined, and thus will surprise you.  A good and working relationship will change you and your partner to become better people than who you are if you were just by yourselves.  Yes, you could lose your present sense of identity, but only because you’ve assumed the identity of the best version of you.

 

Categories: Ideas and Philosophy